December 29 , 2021 /

MANY SIDES OF ONE

I am a son, a grandson, a brother, a husband, a father, a cousin, an uncle, a brother-in-law, son-in-law and a grandfather. I have been or I am a student, a pastor, a psychologist, a psychotherapist, a professor, an instructor, a teacher, a department head, a coach, a principal, a head of school, a trustee,

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December 9 , 2021 /

TOO MUCH AND NOT ENOUGH

What tipped me over the edge this week were the two pictures of elected officials’ families with children holding lethal weapons and the sick joke from one of the parents’ note to Santa, “Please bring ammo.”  Enough already, more than enough, over the top.  I can opt out of the news and social media and

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November 7 , 2021 /

JOY AND GRACE

In a recent email, Rashmir Balasubramaniam (https://rashmir.net) wrote the following: “I’ve been profoundly aware of the joy of being in purposeful, creative flow and also the conjunction of deep peace and playfulness that wise beings seem to embody (the Dalai Lama for example). I see it also in my wisest self when it all too

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October 28 , 2021 /

ANOTHER ROAD TRIP

This trip has become a familiar one for me for the past 25 years.  Regardless where we were living – NM in Santa Fe & Abiquiu, London, California, and now Arizona, the trek to Oklahoma City has been occasioned by family members living there, some originating there, some returning there and now dying there.  S.

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September 29 , 2021 /

BEING AND BECOMING

What did 70 years of learning help me “to understand and to appreciate, to celebrate and enjoy and to use most readily in my life and in my work? I learned that most of all, life is about who I am, not simply what I do. I learned that there is an important distinction between

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September 23 , 2021 /

OPTION TO FLIGHT OR FIGHT

Years ago I developed a little scheme for helping people to deal with that I called, reactive emotions that usually got them nowhere, except mired in their own misery.  I offered another option. Imagine someone making a snide remark or remember the last time someone said something to you that prompted an immediate, spontaneous “fight

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