The second definition of myth is “a widely held but false belief or idea.” The first definition has to do with a story that we tell to explain things we may not understand. Regardless of definitions, here’s why I believe most of the palaver about work life balance is either a false idea or a story we tell ourselves to try and figure out an answer.
Those who complain about life being “out of balance” usually with too much work and not enough life seem to feel like they are not in control of how, where and with whom they spend their time. This shows that what you believe controls so much of what you do, or in this case, what you don’t do. You continue to be stuck in a situation or condition that Is either not to your liking or unhealthy or both.
So, what to do? Drum roll, please. Make a change! It’s the illustration of the classic definition of insanity which is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. My roommate’s aphorism is, “If nothing changes, nothing changes.” At first it sounds somewhat simple and yet, it is rather profound.
Life is not all about work nor should it be. Life is living and work is part of that and when it dominates life to the extent of someone being unhappy, stressed or upset, is that not a sign that it’s time to make a change? Yes, that’s a rhetorical question.
When we love what we do and we are doing what we love, when we are pursuing our passion with purpose, balance is of little concern. We manage to find or take the time for activities and relationships beyond our work and life is rich, meaningful and satisfying.
We often hear “Be the change you want to see” and that applies here as well. Design the change you want and need and do not wait until next month or next year. There is no time like the present and no present like time. Take advantage of that gift and “just do it.”